Category: Personal

ValeriaAbsinthe’s Defamation of Me

Let us begin from... the beginning...

I met Val (ValeriaAbsinthe on dA) a while back when her cat was sick. I gave her $100 free and clear to help her pay the vet bill. The cat ended up passing, and I helped her deal with that too (well, with what I could do being connected by internet only). I eventually started following her, some of our OCs had interactions, and we became friends.

After a while, in April of this year, I was looking for someone to do two commissions for me. I still hadn’t known Val that long but felt comfortable enough to entrust my money and three characters with her. I paid via PayPal in full $68.00. As of the morning of 5/21, I had heard nothing about those commissions…. HOWEVER… Val had been posting alarming status’ and polls about her art and the status of things not getting done for a month. Not wanting to ‘rock the boat,’ I let it go, hoping for the best.

That is when the proverbial shoe dropped on 5/21. That morning, Val sent a status update tagging everyone she owed art to explaining that she wasn’t going to do said art until she had an art style she liked. As we all know (artists anyways), this can take YEARS to accomplish if ever!

Well, Val kindly put out the offer that anyone not willing to wait could have their money refunded to them – over time – but refunded nonetheless. I commented that I would accept the refund and that is where the trouble began… [see screenshots]

But Wait, There is More...

Val posted a comment tagging everyone again with the shittiest possible response to the situation SHE created… [see top screencap]

Well I wasn’t very happy at this point – none of us had done anything wrong accepting the offer SHE MADE. And as you can read, I requested several times the manner and timeline of the promised refund. I could never get a straight answer for someone who claims to have such a solid grasp on their funds and budget. It felt to me very alarming that someone was offering me my money back but refused to tell me when and how. That told me they Val had no intention of going thru with that offered refund. If you can’t give any sort of timeline or make an offer of any sort on increments, methods, etc, then you don’t plan to give that money back. Period. So I opened a PayPal dispute.

For the PayPal dispute, I opened in the morning. I took the six screencaps you have already seen [screencaps in above section], and I told PayPal what happened and attached the screencaps as proof that she said she would refund my $68.00. It took PayPal an hour to side with me and refund my $68.00. During that hour, I had the pleasure of Val sending me a dA note… [see middle screenshot]

Val knew about the dispute because about 30 minutes in, she magically had a very crappy WIP for me (which based on other things she has said since, I suspect she turned in to PayPal as ‘proof’ that she was doing her part). She laid the guilt trip on too. I wasn’t having an of it the way she had already treated me (as you can see). I did not abuse or harangue her. I was civil and mostly respectful if not blunt and to the point.

Shortly after this exchange, Val went ahead and deleted everything off of her page. All the journals, status’, and quite a few comments. She then posted this gem… [see bottom screencap in the event she deletes it from dA]

NOW she went too far and publicly named me...

So this is where I drew the line and made my facebook post.

She not only calls me out publicly for a reasonable response and action taken by me to ensure the offered refund was delivered timely, BUT she tells people to AVOID ME. THAT folks, is defamation.

So I took to Facebook to tell my side of the story (link above – will remain alive and active). Every situation has two sides, as Val herself tells it, and seriously, if me getting my $68.00 back is going to bankrupt her, cause her to lose her job, and cause her to be homeless, then SHE has serious issues outside of money she needs to get straight. Per her own YT video, she has debtors that may kill her if she is late on payments, so that right there is alarming! But again, nothing $68.00 is going to cure. The PERSON has to make changes, and a big one she can make right now is to take responsibility for HER actions and start coming thru on HER promises and obligations.

The second screencap happens AFTER she takes down her YT video and putting up her $68.00 cyberpunk adopt set. She lays claim that she was bullied off YT basically…

The Mighty Bullying of Val on YT

Brace yourselves, this is extreme bullying at its peak… These are the comments left to her that were not all ‘poor you’ and ‘I hope everything turns out okay.’ These are the bullying comments that sent her flyiing back to dA to update the deviation where she publicly defames me.

Shortly after thse two comments went live, she deleted her YT video.

Where do we go from here?

I don’t know, but I hope this article helps some other people avoid giving their money to an incredibly toxic person who does not come thru on their part of the deal let alone honor their promises. I also hope this helps people understand that I do not need to be avoided – she is using scare tactics to directly harm me and my art business. It is wrong and illegal.

Will she ever stop?

Probably not. She does have nice art but the package deal is more than bargained for. In reality, she just ran a bait-and-switch on her commissioners. We paid for one product and she then refused to deliver, instead saying we would have to take her new product but at an unknown date in the future. That is also illegal and is a scam.

Why am I posting this?

I know it is probably going to add fuel to the fire. However, I have a right to defend myself from her libel AND a right to tell my side of the story. So I am. And I am utilizing everything in my arsenal to do so. I do not take defamation laying down. I haven’t in the past, and I sure won’t with Val or any of her followers.

Is it really the end of 2018 already?!

It really seems time for a lil'update!

It has been quite a ride this year! I started the year doing next to NO art and ended the year having so much art surplus to choose from that the Art Summary wheel for 2018 ended up being rather difficult to do! It is hard to choose your favorites!
I learned a lot in 2018 and my art ability and overall style transformed quite a bit (along with my digital footprint in a new logo and branding). Anatomy improved (but still needs improvement, yes), I really delved deep into traditional art and found a passion for it I didn’t know existed, and I really tried to do more art for OTHER people (as well as commission / buy from other people more – artists supporting artists is truly very important!). Looking back on 2018 gives me some level of pride I didn’t know I had in myself and in my art.
2019 will be the year of discovery for me! NSFW, here I come! If you want to walk this deplorably fun and naughty path with me, please come and join me on Patreon! Right now, any tier level will be able to see my NSFW trial-and-errors via Discord rewards until I am confident enough to create a $5 tier JUST FOR NSFW CONTENT. I will be finishing up my ‘Month of Giving’ in January, and starting the HUGE ordeal of getting all my OCs new references… LORT HELP ME. I also plan to continue offering commissions (prices updated now for 2019), working with my Closed Species (Ambrivans and Wonderlings), and despairing over DnD-related content that I will give away freely on dA! As far as WIPs, processes, etc goes, those will be PATREON EXCLUSIVES ONLY. Again, please join me on Patreon for exclusive content.
Happy Holidays and a Happy New Year everyone! <3

A Personal Post: Medical

Some of this may be TMI.

Consider yourself warned.

As many of you know, I have IBS-D and was put on Loperamide to help control it for the last year+. Well, a couple weeks ago, I started seeing a nutritionist thru the VA, and she started me on the Low-FODMAP diet which is apparently for IBS sufferers. ((wtf my gastric doctors didn’t do this is beyond me, but whatever…))

To say that I am pleased so far on this diet is an understatement. Three weeks in and I can see and feel improvement. On this diet, I have one or two episodes every day to two days – a huge improvement over 2 or 3 a day on the Loperamide or 6 to 7 a day with nothing to help at all. This improvement alone makes me want to keep the diet, but there is more…

The gas, swelling, cramping, and overall constant discomfort in my stomach and chest area has lessened. My pants are fitting again – I haven’t lost any weight yet they are needing to be pulled up or worn with a belt! Also, the acid reflux has almost completely went away!!! Hooray for no more heartburn!

So three weeks into a six week trial, and my brain is already weighing the pros and cons of this Low-FODMAP diet.

  • PRO: Reduction in pain / symptoms beyond the ability of medication

  • PRO: Feel better; look better (I have needed this boost for a while!)

  • PRO: Less embarrassing bathroom trips and bowel episodes…

  • PRO: Easier to work, go out, spend time with family / friends, etc

  • CON: BUT IS EXPENSIVE!!! More expensive than medication alone…

So the big con here is $$$ (really the only con besides no chocolate) … But I am leaning towards it being worth a lifelong hit to my pocketbook for relief and the ability to have a life most of the time. Right now I have to plan everything according to bathroom locations and time / travel between those locations. I bring an empty ice cream bucket in my car for sudden episodes between bathroom locations – and have had to use it on the side of the road!! I can only imagine what travelling without spare clothes, towels, wet wipes, poop bucket, toilet paper, and an abundance of plastic bags would be like! And to reduce the embarrassment of bathroom trips would be spectacular!

I don’t know what money can or can’t buy in life for everyone, but I know what I want in my life and for my life. If making a lifestyle change like this will bring all this relief but cost a little extra money, then I think it is time to re-evaluate my budget.

Granted I am only 3-weeks into a 6-week trial, but the results have spoke for themselves so far. I will wait and let my nutritionist weigh in too, but I think she will probably think what I am thinking: Go for it! And as of right now, I think that is what I will be doing – no longer a 6-week trial but a new way to live!